The Unslut Project

Emily Lindin posts her journal entries from her sixth-grade year, when everyone at her school decided she was a slut. Terrifying and sad, but it's a bold effort on her part to inspire and achieve catharsis.

He said, “Why not? Come on.” I told him I wasn’t sure I trusted him enough, and he promised me he wouldn’t dump me. During this chat, it became perfectly clear to me that he was drunk. Those few shots we had had earlier in Matt’s dining room had really done a lot for him. [...]

But he was on top of me and I didn’t want to disappoint him.

Via XX Factor.

Federal Judges Strikes Age Restrictions for Plan B Over the Counter

Judge Korman stated in his opinion that the FDA’s refusal to lift restrictions was “arbitrary, capricious, and unreasonable.” “More than 12 years have passed since the citizen petition was filed and 8 years since this lawsuit commenced,” the judge wrote. “The F.D.A. has engaged in intolerable delays in processing the petition. Indeed, it could accurately be described as an administrative agency filibuster.”

Would I be correct in assuming that children of any age can go into a store and buy, say, Ibuprofen over the counter? If so, this seems like a big "duh".

Opponents of Marriage Equality Want to Control Straight People

Audrey Bilger at the Ms. blog has an interesting take on yesterday's argument before the Supreme Court in support of Proposition 8:

When opponents of marriage equality talk about "traditional" marriage, they want to roll back the clock on equality between men and women in marriage–hence the fear of "genderless" marriage and their insistence that marriage is a "gendered institution" even though the state does not currently force married couples to play traditional gender roles. If we don't guard against such archaic views of marriage, the state might start requiring pregnant women to marry, forcing men to marry women who can prove paternity and possibly even counting the number of allowed children within marriages.

Tunisian Woman Sent to a Psychiatric Hospital for Participating in Femen

She posted topless pictures of herself to the Femen Tunisia Facebook page she created, so her parents took her to a psychiatric hospital. That may not be the worst thing that happens to her:

The head of the Commission for the Promotion of Virtue and the Prevention of Vice in Tunisia, Almi Adel, a Salafi Islamic preacher, has called for Amina to be "stoned to death" for posting the images. He warned that Amina's action could cause "epidemics and disasters" and "could be contagious and give ideas to other women." Media reports say Tunisian secular law would punish her with up to two years in prison.

I tend to be a little skeptical of Femen because their protests verge on grandstanding and their agenda seems confused or unfocused. Lately, though, I'm starting to wonder if it might be just the right kind of protest for the parts of the world in which the group is most active.

Tropes vs Women

Media critic Anita Sarkeesian launches her much anticipated series on portrayals of women in video games with “Damsels in Distress (Part 1)”. I don’t care if you’ve never even seen a video game; you must watch this.

The First Road Trip

Jason Torchinsky at Jalopnik tells the story of how Bertha Benz, wife of car inventor Karl Benz, propelled her husband’s design to a higher public profile by taking it on a drive of unprecedented length. Great read.

Via Dave McCall.

Mark Driscoll (Re)Invents Patriarchy

Once again, Libby Anne puts words to my thoughts about a certain segment of Christianity, this time in response to a recent sermon by Mark Driscoll titled “Real Men: Men and Marriage”:

Patriarchy has never been about all women being somehow in bondage to all men—it has always been the individual level Driscoll is talking about. Think of the law of coverture—upon marriage a woman legally ceased to exist, subsumed into her husband. Patriarchy was always about individual women being under individual men. A wealthy noblewoman was not “under” the footmen who waited on her—she was under her wealthy nobleman husband. Under patriarchy, individual women obey and are subject to individual men, obeying and submitting to them in return for protection from other men.

Preach it, my atheist sister.

“You Can’t Just Come Over Here and Hire a Contractor”

Rachel Rose Hartman, White House Correspondent for Yahoo News, describes the hurdles of attempting to breastfeed at the White House. While The Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act mandates that all businesses with more than 50 employees provide dedicated lactation rooms, this poses a conundrum when employees are stationed at non-company-owned facilities.

I tried to resist the bathroom-as-lactation-room as long as I could that first day. But when I couldn’t stand it anymore (read: pain from engorgement, leaking and discomfort) I gave in.

I checked out my options. Neither of the two single-stall restrooms had a chair or a place to sit other than a lid-less toilet seat, which was the first disappointment. There was no countertop where I could set up my equipment. I had no idea how I would make this work.

But I gave it a shot.

Do you ever think of this as a frivolous problem? Read Hartman’s article.

"He Was the First One to Lower His Head."

Trigger Warning for Rape, Murder, and Torture

Great profile of Nusreta Siva, a Bosnian concentration camp survivor who used her experience—and years of collecting and transcribing first-hand accounts of other rape victims—to persuade the international war crimes tribunal to classify rape as a war crime.

A young judge, Nusreta Sivac was one of 37 women raped by guards at a concentration camp in Bosnia. They never discussed the nightly traumas — their pained glances were enough to communicate their suffering. She also witnessed murder and torture by Bosnian Serb guards — and was forced to clean blood from walls and floors of the interrogation room.

She told herself to memorize the names and faces of the tormentors so that one day she might bring them to justice.

Why Is the U.S. Media Ignoring Rape in Syria?

Similarly, Soraya Chemaly piles on the evidence that, despite much attention being given to events in Syria of late, most of the coverage ignores the pervasive weaponization of rape or talks about it in sanitized terms.

Last Monday, for example, the Washington Post ran a lengthy story titled “In grim milestone, UN says number of Syrian refugees tops 1 million.” Like others pivoting around realization of the proportions of the crisis, the article was lengthy and detailed in its discussion of the causes, consequences and destabilizing regional effect caused by the massive out-flux of fleeing Syrians into neighboring states. The content and tone of the piece was similar to a July 2012 Congressional Research Service assessment summary to Congress, “Armed Conflict In Syria: US and International Responses.” It reviewed the Syrian state’s collapse and made recommendations for possible steps the U.S. should take. The report mentioned the importance of Syrian leaders’ “kinship ties” and fighters’ and community “morale” in the conduct and passage of ongoing conflict. However, it did not mention the fact that rape and sexualized violence, which at that time were already evident in humanitarian relief reports, are unique in the way they redefine “weapon” and “conflict,” affect kinship ties, communities and morale, and by extension, state security and disintegration.

The media is all about money. People publish what they think will get them more readers. I’m not saying this is right, but it is true. I suspect The Washington Post and others know that people don’t actually want to hear how widespread and hateful rape has become in Syria. And that statement—if true—is far more unsettling to think about than the errors of omission being committed by The Press.